Introvert Struggles

Hi Readers

In this blog, I  am going to share a piece of information about my  Introvert character, and are the some of things that annoy me or others as an introvert? I have done a small research and some of my personal experience for my blog. Here is what they find most annoying for us. 

1. People complain about me being an introvert or shy (It happened to me at starting of my career).

2. Small talk (My opinion is useless).

3. People think I'm a rude or selfish person. Because I ask them to leave for time to be alone or time to think about something. 

4. Someone told me to speak or interact with others. If I am starting to speak to them, then talk over me every time I tried to start it or they move to other people.

5. My friend is being forced to socialize with people, who I think that, "I don't have much in common with them".

Is this world for extroverted people?

Most people have a common thought, "In this world where extroversion is considered the key to successful and effective life, and it's real struggles or hard for introverts to find their spot or identity for them. At an early age in school to present a job-hunting position, you'll hear the best way to achieve something, you need to create a network. For that, you need to attend parties and events for networking. 

Additional, most job descriptions normally require people to be 

Extremely sociable.

Enjoy the work in the spotlight.

Enjoy working within a team.

Enjoy with teammates and teamwork. 

So if you feel like an outsider because of this belief, don't lose hope or heart. There are many others just like us who struggles to share their feelings and go through the same struggles. To prove this and hopefully help you feel better knowing that you're not alone. And No, this world is not only for extroverted people, because they need us to complete everything. 

Here are a few struggles only introverts could relate to,

1. You appear shy when meeting new people or new places:

Most of us can relate to this feeling of pressure to meet a new person or go to new places which we know nothing. 

What's the first impression you meet a new people?

Are you usually described as shy, whenever you meet new people?

No, Introverts are not shy to meet a new person or go to new places. The truth is, we are quieter than most people, and it automatically makes sense that people would see you as a shy person upon first meeting. The struggles occur when people assume things about you just because you're quieter such as you are not being confident enough to do anything or that you're hiding something or you are not able to do work alone. This might be especially bad on job interviews since recruiters usually seek people who are competent in their skills and responsibilities and it will make your first impression is your worst nightmare. 

2. You'd rather avoid parties or outings with friends and big social events:

Introvert life is designed like feeling happy when they are alone. Most of us will feel alone and hopeless during social events or parties.

Do you ever notice yourself feeling lonelier during parties or social events, that you're alone with yourself? 

Is a wallflower or painting is the only way out or partner for you in entire parties? 

While this might sound contradictory, this is a common struggle for introverts. Whenever you go to parties or social events, you'll feel like there's a wall separating you from other people because of the amount of small talk with others. 

Additional, 

1. Small talk will make you feel extremely bored. And

2. Feel like you're wasting your precious time.

These are two reasons enough why you would rather avoid going to parties or social events. 

3. You always feel under-appreciated:

Have you ever felt that people just ignore you in the room just because you're don't talk as much as others? 

Well, this is one of the most common struggles for introverts. As an introvert, you are usually talking less because you don't know what to say or don't have anything to say or don't have time to respond to them. As a result, people will not know you well and underestimate your skills and capabilities. So that's why, even when you're fit for the job, someone else gets that promotion because of his or her social skills. While you feel like you got skipped. 

4. You feel that working in a team is burdensome.

I have good records of my performance.  When it comes to teamwork, then I feel like they are most talented and most experienced than me. So I simply avoid joining in discussions or meetings. 

Do you feel like group meetings are counterproductive for you? 

It is easier to work alone, than coordinating a group? 

This is one of the struggles that you can easily relate to as introverts. You work much more productively in a quiet, and private environment. Focusing on your task is became harder when people talk around you or asked you to do something else. Additional, as opposed to the belief that having others around is better for inspiration, you are more creative and have innovative ideas when you're alone. And so the fact that companies usually prefer team players over individualists make this a struggle for you and your performance, even if the results and insight you give are better.

5. You feel extremely uncomfortable when you are in the spotlight:

Some basicstion, How comfortable do you feel when you are the centre of attention?

While it's normal to feel extra pressure when being in the spotlight, after all, you are being watched by more people than you normally would. As an introvert, you'll try to avoid speaking in groups or public speaking at all costs because you can't stand people's attention being focused on you. You would much rather have a one-on-one conversation. And even then, you prefer to talk about someone other than yourself. You ever feel uncomfortable talking with acquaintances who you know because they'll always ask personal questions, which you feel like that information are none of their business. 

6. You would rather do everything by yourselves:

In my career, most of the time, I try to do work all by myself. Even I don't have any idea how to do it? or where is the previous document?. I asking you the same question,

Do you try to ask for assistance?

Have you ever spent so much time trying to do something that could have been easily solved, if you just asked someone to help you? 

Is it because you have feared what they would think of you as a result? 

As an introvert, one of the traits that you have is that you hate asking for help and the main reason for this is that you're afraid that you might seem stupid or incapable of doing something. So you end up wasting so much valuable time. Simply because you like to do everything by yourself instead of asking others for help. 

Conclusion

It is important to be aware that the struggles that you have to go through daily are most likely struggles that introverts experience everywhere else. So please know that you're not alone in dealing with these struggles, and start embracing the fact that there are more approaches to life than the extroverted approach. It's not your fault and no one is blaming you for it. Own yourself and let others appreciate you. I hope I was able to give you insight. I  hope I was able to give you insight into some of the ways you might struggle with introversion. 

Do any of these describe your experiences? 

Leave a comment down below about your encounters if you'd like. Please feel free to share any thoughts you have as well. If you like this blog, then share it with those out there battling struggles.